My approach to therapy is very practical: I think that it should free you from ‘symptoms’ and distress and also enable you to do things that you couldn’t do before, to feel real happiness, to feel alive, and to have warm, supportive relationships and a fulfilling life.
If you have had therapy before, you may find working with me quite different. I will answer all your questions and help you to understand yourself and what you are going through, target the root causes of difficulties in the present and help your brain to rewire and create more adaptive networks. You will learn to calm anxiety, make yourself feel better and stronger when you need to, trust yourself and move through the healing process more easily, and you will not only heal but become stronger, more confident, peaceful, assertive and assured. Reprocessing through EMDR therapy is like clearing away the clouds that covered the sun. It was always there; you just could not see it. You may feel things that you never felt before, and be surprised and amazed by your capacity to heal.
There has been a paradigm shift in psychotherapy over recent decades, and we now have a much clearer, more specific understanding of how unresolved negative experiences shape us and our beliefs about life, and how they can be healed. The word ‘trauma’ sometimes seems too big for what we have experienced, but up-to-date, trauma-informed psychotherapy understands most ‘symptoms’ in the present as based on unresolved trauma, not only of commission (obvious trauma) but also of omission: not having things that we needed. For instance, not feeling safe, having no-one to turn to; being cared for physically but not loved emotionally; having parents or caregivers who could not hold us when we felt deeply and intensely, and help us to handle these emotions; having caregivers who were depressed or grieving, or who could not see us for ourselves, rather than for our ability to meet their needs. These are experiences that many people hesitate to call ‘trauma’, but that shape our self-worth and self-confidence, our ability to feel deserving, and the ways in which we sabotage ourselves.
The way I work integrates many different modalities, including integrative, relational psychotherapy, Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy, Attachment-Focused EMDR, the Progressive Approach to EMDR, ego state therapy and work with dissociative parts, the Structural Dissociation Model, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, yoga therapy and transpersonal psychotherapy. However, EMDR is my go-to as it is the quickest and most user-friendly.
My areas of specialisation are:
- Difficulties in relationships
- Inability to make a decision, or to do things that you want to do, ‘stuckness’, sabotaging yourself
- Acute or recurring anxiety or depression, phobias, panic attacks, nightmares, suicidal thoughts
- Wanting things intensely but believing that you can not have them or do not deserve them
- Not knowing who you are or what you want, or not being able to assert yourself
- Emotional, physical or sexual abuse
- CPTSD or complex trauma, otherwise known as developmental or attachment trauma, dissociation, working with dissociative parts, ego state therapy
- Bereavement, too much loss or change, loss of meaning or purpose
- EMDR clinical supervision/consultation